25.07.2024.
These are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the subtle slurs and teasing LGBTQ+ individuals experience growing up:
“Oh, so you’re one of those people?”
“Keep your weirdness to yourself.”
“Isn’t that just a phase?”
“Seriously, no one wants to hear about your love life.”
“Trying too hard to be special, aren’t you?”
“You’re making everyone uncomfortable.”
“Just don’t expect us to be okay with it.”
“This is why you don’t fit in.”
Telling people about your sexual orientation is a big transition. It is a very personal decision that you should take only if you feel ready, keeping in mind that being unable to be open about who you are can be hard. It’s important to remember that you don’t have to come out to everyone all at once.
Although it could be a difficult time for you, also bear in mind that the news might be difficult for those on the receiving end of it.
Don’t let this dishearten you. Remember that, with time, people will be more understanding and accepting than when you first tell them.
Decide who you want to tell first.
Think about people you trust and know will be supportive. The more support you get, the easier it will be to come out to others.
It is important that the people you tell will not tell others behind your back. You might decide to tell your parents. Sometimes parents believe that they must have raised their children in a way that made them gay. This isn’t true, and research shows that being gay is determined by biological factors. Tell your parents that you need their love and support, and that you understand that they may need time to accept the news.
Alternatively, you could initially come out to someone you know is gay. They may be able to support you and tell you about their process.
Coming out can be difficult, particularly initially, but you will find that it brings with it more benefits to your life. You won’t have to feel that you are hiding something from the people around you. People find that they are less anxious after they have come out.
